I am 13, and i have no clue what your talking about, i love going to dances, and i thought all teens wanted to do was get away from there parents and "socialize" And if were no outside of with friends were prob texting them or on facebook with them.

I was a bit taken aback by your statement "We don't WANT them here!" I think that your daughter, if she is in error, to err on the side of conservatism. It is not wrong to want to be safe. Be glad she feels so with you. Don't know if I would, if I knew you'd rather have me on the other side of the door.

so u just want ur kids to do drugs sex and etc.....cause u wanted them to "socialize".

To be honest, parents have NO idea what kind of things teenagers today face. There are more pressures for different things today than there were when our parents were kids. Between drugs, drama, sex, and violence, there is enough out there to make us not want to go and "socialize" at all.

sorry mom, with all of the modern technology that they have now there is no reason to go out. they are still socializing, just not in person.

be grateful and enjoy ,they will be gone soon enough

As a mother I am very happy that my children want to be a home. Parents today are alot more involed with there children. When I grew up my parents never did anything with me. I grew up feeling like I was just another job my parents felt they had to deal with. I make it a point everyday to spend time with my children. Be happy and enjoy it, soon they will be moving out and starting there own life and you will miss them and want to spend time with them.

listening to your argument, in my opinion, it sounds like your irritated that your kids are in the house. Do they get in your way or annoy you in someway? Just because your kids dont do the same things you did when you were a kid in the 80's (as so was I) its not ok? How much has this world changed since the 80's? In the 80's we didnt have as much crime and crap as we do now. Yes we had peer pressure to do things. Would you rather your kids be out doing drugs, drinking, having sex, joining gangs, stealing? NO of course not. Guess what that stuff happens now a days. Your kids obviously knows what is going on you should be commending them for not wanting to be apart of that crap. As far as high school dances, do you even know what goes on at these dances today? I chaperoned a high school homecoming dance and I was blown away at what happens there. These kids are popping pills, groping each other like they are in a club. They might as well have sex right there. Your daughter must know this and is smart to not want to put herself in this situation. Instead of complaining about it why do you try having a conversation with your kids about things and find out why they would rather stay home? You seem like the type that dont want the kids around until they have to be. If they want to stay home then teach them how to be responsible, do chores, housework ect.. Be the parent instead of letting their friends be the parent for them

there are so many people i know that they go down town every day they drink and party and do all this bad [BLEEP]. you should be happy your kids are not like that because they are going to grow up being like a homless alcoholics. now and days its very easy to socialize other ways like on facebook or with your cell phone etc. i understad that you should'nt always be at home maybe get out once a week or so to hang with your freind. and who knows maybe your child is just ati-social and you should force them to be social.good luck...

A big part of why people don't socialize as much as they do these days I think has alot to do with technology. You meet all these people everywhere but there is never any emotion or anything else attached to it, so after a while you kinda go "whatever" and don't see the reason to go out and talk when you can do it at home. In this case I think it has more to do with avoiding bad influences. It sounds like your child knows how shallow and troublesome teenagers are these days, and doesn't want to get mixed up with bad influences. I would think it's a good thing your kids want to come home, and atleast this way you know they aren't getting into trouble.

I personally didnt want to get out there and socialize with others. Many people have many different reason. Mine was that; the people around here only do drugs or drink.. I LIVE IN KURT COBAIN LAND.. ABERDEEN WASHINGTON.. Your very lucky if you find people in your city that dont do drugs or drink. My personal opinion 80% of people around here has done drugs and also started drinking before the age of 18. I stayed home most of my high school year just because i didnt want to be put in the wrong crowd. I was smarter than that to join them. To this day i never had tried any drugs. OH ANOTHER THING... If you were tryen to fit in.. more than likely you were also practicing on maken babies. THE SMART PEOPLE KNOW BETTER

You should be happy that your children want to stay home with you. Would you rather them go out & get drunk, pregnant or get someone pregnant, or do drugs? I was always a home body growing up & now that I am a parent, I hope that my son will want to stay home with me as much as he can because that is time that I can never get back. It is such a critical time in his life & I want so much to be a part of it. Dont worry, it should not affect them when they leave home after they turn 18. I went to college & have a job. I may not be outspoken or a social butterfly but that is just me. Every child is different. Mabey they just dont want to be away from home right now. And trust me, that can be a good thing. Dont take this time for granted or you will regret it later.

I would If I could, honestly, but where I live and many people live we can't go anywhere without cars and trust me, once we can drive, we DO. 88% of our lives revolves around friends. In my house I constantly communicate with my friends because my parents /theirs can't always take us places. It's not like we can just get on our bikes and go places either without fear of getting raped or stolen.

I agree with Rusty I kno a few kids who come home from school and go right for the T.V. or as I like to call it Vidiot games I didnt have that growing up we had 8 tracks and 45's I think oce A month there should be a no electric day I use to do that with my children and not only that they were not allowed to atch to much T.V. I kept track of that today kids have more reason to stay home

i think the major factor is echnology like tv, internet, video games, people actually have stuff to do in their house these days, but kids these days are becoming slaves to technology and still need to get out. a couple other reasons for staying at home might be that your a social outcast or you dont want to drink or get into the party scene, or they could be emo...

Haha LOL "I want them out the house" Ur right, even though I do stay In the house (Internet) for a very long period of time. But I am not a bat, on WEEKENDS i visit my friends, go to the mall, theatre, etc. It is FUN!!! But I do suggest getting more sunlight, it is healthy and we need to grow up in society by socializing. 5 stars for jencan! -序名三~様

Look people bad things happen over the internet also. I almost ran away from home to get pregnant by a guy I didn't know just because I have internet. But then again bad things happen in real life too. My ex step dad sexually abused me and now I take medicine for depression. Its wrong both ways but please don't become your kids worst enemy's they will do things like do drugs and drink beer because we are young and want to rebel.

Hey Monia_sky1225, this mother isn't suggesting that her daughters hang out at bars or go club hopping. Being social means hanging out with your peers in a safe environment. No mother or father would wish that their kid have the experience you had. Simply put, social skills a better person it makes.

Honey, I'm a young mother and my teenage years were not long ago and I would have to say that be glad your daughter stays home. Don't you watch the news? The world today seems worse than it was in the 80s. Children are getting kidnapped here and there, raped here and there and murdered here and there. You are fortunet and blessed to have your child come home to you everyday. I was a "good girl" and innocent when I was a teen until I started to go out. I ended up making the wrong choices even though i knew they were wrong.Sadly my turning point was when I was sexually assaulted, and those who I went to school with were there and knew what the rapist were planning to do to me and they did nothing. I never expected that to happen to me I'm lucky to be alive today. She can have a social life when she goes to college, right now it's best that she stays near the family.

you should feel lucky your kids want to be in the house an not out with friends doing all the bad things most kids do as teens an maybe your kids are socializing im sure they have cell phones, myspaces, facebook etc me personally im 15 an i would rather be hanging at the mall movies or partying than being in the house with my mom an if you feel your kids should be out at the mall or other places maybe you should talk to them about it

You should feel luck they aren't out doing things they shouldn't for one.But maybe to much internet or tv is a factor.

Got the same problem. I'm a 41 year old father of 2 and my 16 year old has no driver's license, no job and very little by way of activities outside of the home. I agree with lucy to some degree that it's just "easy" to be able to communicate without leaving the house. I'm guilty as much as anyone else, but the only way you are going to get it to change is shut off the internet, take away the phones and X-Box gadgets and leave them with the saaem "resources" we had as kids. Trust me...they'll eventually go outside. And one last thing to Lucy...not sure how old you are - young I presume - but being a kid from my age group, I can tell you that we didn't get rides to anyone's house or carry a "beeper" (unless you were a drug dealer). Sports, bicycles, playgrounds and anything else you could do outdoors were what occupied our time. Let's see in about 20 years how healthy your generation is from all that use of modern day technology.

When you were growing up...wow was that a long time in technology years. Sure you had your walkmans, brick phones and something called a beeper. LOL Just kidding the truth is that kids are social if not more than you were in your days. Kids today just happen to rely on technology, I bet when you were growing up your parents drove you to little Sussie's house to study. Well, today kids don't even bother going to the library to study let alone a friends house. They simply turn on their computers and bang, they are on a three way instant message conference. I think you get the point.