34 years ago I met this guy at work and started dating him. We've been married 32 years now. Dating a co-worker worked out fine for us, I have no regrets!

I think it depends on the situation. if you can keep it fairly professional at work and leave your personal fights and issues at home then it could work. I met my husband at work we both work for wal mart and are both cashiers, we still to this day work together and we are doing great keeping it professional at work and working together well. I have been on the other side and had things turn out bad but it just depends on if the two of you can be mature enough to put your differences aside should anything happen to the relationship

Never date anyone you work with. I had one of the worst experiences, ever dating someone I worked with.

*question* sorry, u doesn't work write. kinda makes my comment look stupid now, huh?? ;)

Why is this qestion on here 2x? People already said it wasn't a good idea when you asked it the first time. AND ITS NOT.

In 99.99% of the case, I say NO WAY. It adds complications to the work environment. Considering that many companies are downsizing, this adds to the stress of working and keeping a job. Many men don't have pure motives when approaching female co-workers. To women, it's not worth it find out if someone is serious about you or even if the relationship works out. Men talk and lie, and this could ruin your reputation. To men, it's not worth it because you can potentially open yourself up to sexual harassment cases.In my humble opinion, I'd say don't get your honey where you make your money. Leave it alone.

YES, I think it can be wise to date a co worker:) I did & we've been together for 19 yrs. now & married 4 five years & I am so happy we meet~

I think that is an area you want to take caution...You need to think long term and think of how your work situation will be if you go out with this person and it doesn't work out. And never date anyone who has any influence or control over your job.

no never!!!

No. Don't date a co-worker, I'm sure you'r wise enough to see that theres big risk in that.

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It depends. If you are so attracted that you can't stand it, go for it but it's usually not a good idea. However, sometimes things do work out. Go with your gut feeling. You'll know if it feels right. ;)

I have to agree with "depends on how mature the people are" to a point. Yes you both need to be mature, but I don't feel that if you break up that one of them be willing to seek employment elsewhere, you should both be mature enough to continue working together after a split up, if your not then you shouldn't have gone down that road to begin with. I dated a co-worker and it was wonderful and we are still in love to this day and no longer work together.

Well if you are mature enough this relationshiop can and does work for many people. Most of the men I date I have met at work, the reality is this......you must both be aware that in the event you should break up, that one of you is willing to seek employment elsewhere.

If you don't have to be around each other all day everyday it won't be so bad because if you do split up you can avoid each other. I dated twice in the work, once he was in & out all the time so when we broke up, he was easily avoided. 2nd time, I worked beside him all the time, then we broke up. I had to see him everyday, I had to work beside him, everyone got into our relationship, pointed fingers at the one they thought were the bad person...it ended up being alot more drama then it needed to be.

Dumb question ! America lets pretend at least that we are educated.

Its not a bad thing to date some1 you work with unless you 2 break up. Makes the job alot harder when you got to work around some1 you use to date. Expecailly when they already found some1 else to date an flaunts them at the work place.

Follow your heart Cher. I dated someone I worked with over two years ago, we still work together and we're getting married May 29, 2010 in the US Virgin Islands. Not to mention that we are so supportive of one another that we actually prefer working shifts together because we know that we can always lend a helping hand. Do we fight? YES! And it does come with us to work sometimes, but through working together for just a few moments, it dissipates and shows us how much we actually need each other. Hope this helps! It's like Moonshine commented: Go figure!

I started a relationship with this guy at work .... we worked together for 5 years. We don't work together anymore, but we are still together.... its been 30 years this past October and we have 2 beautiful kids. Go figure.

i startred dating someone from work. Now 6 months later, we are living together, and planning to get engaged. there is nothing wrong with dating co-workers EXCEPT that it can, in some cases, put your employment with that company in jeprody. Now having said that, it's your jo as an individual to decide if that person is worth that risk and meture enough to handle it. _Keep Peace_

don't get your milk where you make your bread.it always taste like [BLEEP].

This lady tinyperson, has no valid point of why you shouldn't date someone you work with, her ugly a#@ is probably lying anyway, he never had a boyfriend LOL! He ahd another girlfriend that can happen anywhere, people gossiping, can happen anywhere when you get cheated on. This lady is stupid

only if you are on equal ground at work. Even then, could get ugly if one party is passed over for a raise, or if one party is given the opportunity to advance....

How else are you going to get a promotion? Of course!

you should date who ever you want! we should go back to the 70's and every body just sleep with everybody, lol

hey im all for it if the guy is nice and works at your level or differdnt department go for it,just set all the rules before going on a date with him whatever happens between u and him goes no further,but u know hoe guys r they like to exagerate!!

Oh yeah! you get better promotions, and if you get fired later, great because you can take your experience and go somewhere else and make more money! You look like a woman scorned, i wouldn't want to do it with you. You look like a very vengeful person, I bet you would come after my ass with claws out after I told your poor hairdoo face it was through!

I really don't think it matters who you date. You guys are looking at it from all the negative aspects. What if this co-worker was your soul mate? Good things could come out of it. I don't think you should limit yourself to just co-workers but if it's someone you're really into then why not try it? And if things don't work out then you can still work together...you just have to know to grow up and be professional about it. Yes i am only 16 but i had a relationship with a guy for a year and a half and our break up was bad but then we were stuck in a scene in Drama class where we had to "be in love." You just have to be professional about it ad suck it up.

In my opinion I think it would be hard to be in a relationship with a co-worker. Like the little girl pointed out, if there was a breakup or an arguement and you got all sad or angry about it, you would have to face them once again at work. And when couples argue they like to get out of the house and go to work to get it off there mind and away from their partner, but if your dating your co-worker it would be harder to do that. And another thing some relationships come to an end because of too much time together, if your living with your partner, plus working with your partner, it might be too much time together. In some cases thats a bad thing, in other cases its a good thing. It could just all depend on the couple, but in my opinion I think it would be difficult to date a co-worker.

I like this little girl, she has the right arguments, the right opinion AND ALL THE RIGHT ATTITUDE! i just hope she keeps he own advice when she grows older and become a lawyer!!!

I dated a co-worker. We've been married for 24 years.

I dated a co-worker for over a year; we eventually stopped dating, she married, I was invited to her wedding, we contibued to work together for several years. I wi=ould say that the reason for breaking up COULD possibly cause on-the-job prtoblems; however a mutually-consented breakup woith no baggage should present no future problems at work.

Is it wise? Probably not. But, if two people who work together truly like each other then i say go for it. I see nothing wrong with it. I have dated a co-worker before. It didn't work out but we are still friends to this day. Things only get awkward if you let it.

is it wise? no

There is an old saying, "Don't s__t where you eat. It will cause problems down the road to the working relationship, if you break up. Going out in groups is different. Unless one of you is willing to leave the work place if you break up, then no. Some people can forgive and still be friends, but that isn't the norm.

If the person you are considering dating is in a position of authority over you , it is not wise. When is doubt, don't. just that you posed the qusetion tells me that you already know the answer. Good luck, its difficult to discipline yourself to not "follow your feelings" if it is not going to be best in the long run or possibily affect your job.

you can do what ever you want it you right no matter what people think

It is never ok to date someone you work with. I have witnessed too many woman spending extra time away from there work area, just to visit there new love. This is unfair to co-workers and your company. Then if you ever break up, you will see this person at work, making it uncomfortable situation for both parties. And if both of you "love" your job, and have to give up what they enjoy just to not see the other, how fair is that?

no it is not smart to date at work u date for 3 months then you start getting in fights and then when u break up your inicent and your ex will tell ur boss a lye and get you fired start bad rumors around the factory and then ur work life is ruined for that place

READ THE STORY (WHERE LOVE IS GOD IS) THATS IT THE ANSWER ...

in my opinion and experience, i dont think you should do it. first of all, love doesnt put food on the table or pay your lights and gas bill. i dated a couple of people from work, and it was awful because one, im the jealous type (even though i had a good reason to be)and found out the guy was cheating on me with a co worker. just save yourself the time, energy and heartbreak, and dont date anyone who you work with...

I'd say NO. You put yourself in a situation where people are going to gossip about you and some might even create trouble between you too, just for the sake of drama or out of envy. If you can, avoid it. If the love of your life works with you, be discreet, and be as professional as possible at work. Only confide in your closest friends.

what the [BLEEP] is this?? people can be so lame...

this is not a daiting show go and ask ur ? som were else

if you date a co-worker you are bound to be on the real peoples court. be smart don't do it.date the guy next door to your work. you know the cure one at subway.

Dating men at work can be disastrous, but if you have your "stuff" together, it can be fun also. I say, if you value your job? Don't do it. If you can care less and can find another one? Go for it.

Go to a private chat room and do your arguing ADULT and the other person who is afraid to even give their name!!!This is supposed to be for the people who actually have a case. if you want to argue, go buy a camera and make your own case or are you both too UGLY to even show your faces?

I think these two women should accept a date from any man that even looks at them really..... I mean WOW!!!Whether it's at work, on the street, in a bar, wherever. Just ACCEPT the man's proposal. It's probably the last one you'll ever get.

Sure you can date someone you work with. I dated a man that I worked with and ended up gettting maried and having children. We have been married for over 8 years and neither one f us currntley work at the place where we meet. We are now in the military, and very happy. True love does not matter where you work. But you do have to be able to keep work at work and your dating life at home. Just as long as you can do that then its fine. But if you do have to be carful on who you do date and make sure it will not cause problems with other coworkers.

Why are you so uptight about this? calm down, I am at peace. If it is that much of a issue for you, apply what I wrote in the wrong case and add it to the right case. I tried to tell you this from the beginning and it would have probably made sense to you. You mentioned that on march 15. But you choose to go on about this instead. If anyone was cutting anyone down it was you cutting me down. You still think I said something in a bad way about nikki, but what I don't understand is: What part of "Its under the wrong case don't you understand?", and what part of "Caring, Honest, and Constructive Criticism don't you understand either?" The only reason I said anything to you and only after you commented to me and called me names, would be because you kept insulting my intellgence. I will not back up on what I said about her because I believe it will be helpful and beneficial to her in the future! You were just looking for someone to bash so you found something and ran with it! If I tell you what I think and how feel how can you tell me otherwise? Who are you to tell me what I think and feel? You also said my comment wasn't the harshest so whats the deal? The issue is in you as you continue on about me. I can not help if you can not grasp it! You jump to conclusions and you really should ask my intention before accusing. I just want her (nikki) to know that my intentions were good and not the story you made it out to be. Just because we disagree, the name calling and insults are unnecessary. I wish you all the best! (and it is not sarcasticly)

Ok, of course I am not going to let it go about the wrong case, because that was the whole point of MY 1st comment. I told you the story so that you might possibly understand by seeing it another way, but you will not because you refuse to see anything but your own side. The reason I keep stating that it was under the wrong case is because that is why I made my 1st comment to start with, you made NO sense. If you went back, listened to what Nikki said, then read your comment, would it make sense to you??? I am focused on what caused the problem to begin with where you are just focused on being right and thinking you are teaching me something. I have stated over and over about where it was placed, because that was WHY it made NO sense. The whole point of MY comment. Instead of accepting that fact, you have tried with all your useless might to cut me down. You were sarcastic before we started with your holier than thou name: "ADULT" You were sarcastic with your "You need" comment and have continued to be sarcastic from that point on. Sugar coat it all you want, we both know that you are sarcastic and your ticked that I'm calling you on it. I have not insulted you in any way, I have called it like I see it using your own words. I've given constructive critisism, something you feel you can give out but not accept for yourself. Maybe you should give your self lessons on accepting someone elses opinion, which from what you say, I have a right to. I am done talking to you because you ignore the facts and are stubbornly ignorant. Have a nice day........MORE of "YOUR OWN" sarcasism.

Thats where your wrong (once again! By no means am I sarcastic! Once again that is how Your reading it! I think your so fixed on trying to be right you just can't let it go! You need to come up with a story just to keep it going! I have no need not justify anything to anyone, "I stand firmly on what I said, and I meant it!" It seems your more focused on where I placed the comment (under the wrong case) so much so it has become an obsession with you! You brought it up at least 5 out of 6 times and no matter how many times I have told you I placed it under the wrong case you keep pushing it and saying I make no sense! It is You who makes no sense! and You need to stop telling me what I need because, if I wanted to be sarcastic (inwhich I do not), I would say something like: "Wow what a priviledge to converse with someone soooo perfect!" Thats sarcasism! Thanks for proving my point! Your insults prove your insecurity and how you may have think I commented isn't anywhere near correct. We will never agree! It's been real!

I do not know why they bleeped out a word, I did not use anything bad and don't recall what the word was but, that is their mistake.

here's a story: you are a farmer and you have two horses, one is white and sickley the other is black and healthy. you point to the white and sickly horse and tell us it is "black and healthy". any normal intelligent person would say no, you are wrong, it is not healthy, nor black. then you say "oh, i was pointing to the wrong one but i'm still right, just pointing to the wrong one. that horse is very black and very healthy." you proceed to ramble for another hour about how you were still right. no matter how many times you say it, if your pointing to the wrong one, it will never be right. the only way it would ever make any sense is if you in fact, pointed to the right one. see this is the point, you can ramble on about your wonderful life lessons all you want,(zzzz) but you will never change a white horse to black. you are so far off the point, you might as well be on mars. construction means to build up, [BLEEP]o, not tear down. it's not always what you say, but how you say it. you are very caring alright, caring about yourself. you "need" to stop being sarcastic. your are so bent on being right, that you will never see past your own mirror. that's ok, because it will never be the reflection i see. you also "need" to stop being so insulting and if you insist on "building", try working on yourself. you obviously will never get the point, so i am through trying to open your eyes and your narrow minded tunnel vision. you still have a long way to go, you must be what, about 16? it sounds like you are trying really hard to justify your words to yourself more than to me. good luck!! see, i can be sarcastic too. :]

hey adult, i didn't rant and rave i merely commented. you have drawn your own conclusions in your mind and seem very narrow minded. insulting my intelligance just proves your ignorance! the only difference is, i was more sympathic to your feelings, and never once in the past comments did i blurr out any criticism to you, you on the otherhand just blurr out criticisms because you disagree with someone, how sad is that??? now thats mean! i have been through more in life than you can ever imagine. the cir[bleep]stance have giving me empathy towards others. being a musician i have an ear for articulation and learn to articulate my vocals. if it weren't for my vocal teacher giving me constructive criticism and me being open minded to it, i wouldn't be the musician i am today. so if you believe what i say is wrong ask some of the experts.

Once again, you have missed the whole point. If you are not going to listen to both sides of an issue and remain holier than thou, then it is a mute point. I have come to the conclusion through your own rantings that you do not have the mentality to even deal with this properly, which makes me sad for all of us. I am done discussing this with someone so selfish and ignorant. Ignorance is bliss as they say, which means you will remain happy with opinions. Fine by me, just be ready to accept eating what you dish out.

ok I wasn't going to say anything but I decided to. Your opinion once again is "just that!" If you read what I wrote: "You DON'T HAVE TO answer!" not that I assumed you wouldn't answer! I knew you would! You see, I don't assume anything, I just asked a question is all~ Although you couldn't let it go, it would appear be your issue! I have already explained myself several times and YOU "don't get it!" and no it didn't stike a nerve with me because again I said nothing wrong!, Without constructive criticism we never learn to better ourselves and yes I have always been open to constructive criticism, I thanked the people who helped me (like teachers) later for it. It wasn't negativity, it was the truth to build character and learn something! It may appeared negative "to you!" but not to me! It is just that some people are not open to it and just can't take it! This is not going to change as I have helped lots of people in my life with it! So what! if my comment was under the wrong case! why does that seemed to be more of the issue with you! I explained all that! and at least I said something constructive not like what you said about some of the other comments that were made! I didn't like them either! I believe you wrote them back as well????? I said what I said, I don't regret it! I have said over and over and over again: "my motives are caring and honest" and by no means am I mean and uptight but you can not accept that and that would be your issue too! So if you are done we could agree to disagree. Thank you!

Ok, if you are going to ask a dumb question, you are going to get a dumb answer. Everyone knows the answer to that question.

Well, if you agree with being "constructively critical", then you must be open to it also. NOT being critical however, doesn't take away your ability to think and feel what you want. You can still do that and honestly I could care less about trying to stop you. Thank you for assuming I wouldn't answer, but no, I do not know Nikki. I just try to stand up for people when others "feel" like being negative. Negativity knocks people down, especially when it's aimed at their character. It's sickening to read the ridicule some of the people write on these cases. While yours was not in anyway the harshest,it, as I have stated before, "appeared" to be very negative at the time. (remember, it's posted under the wrong case?) So, it came acrossed as even more pointless. HAD it been posted under the right case, it probably WOULD have made sense. The one it IS posted under, ie: "this one", had you sounding ridiculous. Do you get it now? You went off ranting and raving about why you said it, without realizing, that it IS senseless...UNDER THIS POST. Under THIS post, there isn't any name calling and she speaks clearly. Hence the reason your comment "APPEARED" to be out in left field and downright mean. I called you rude, because you have just about come undone on this issue without stopping and thinking about how it did sound under the WRONG post. You are picking and choosing what you want to. It was a missunderstanding that has been blown out of proportion. I'm sorry I struck a nerve. Being uptight just means you need to calm down, that's constructive critisism. I like how you are letting it go, I'd hate to see you care about it...scary. Still waiting for that good debate. :P

Well h-e-l-l-o again, I thought I would be hearing from you! ok so now I am confused??!!?? There is a comment I made about this case "Love works" it is on here, it is about this case "Love works" and "not about" nikki! but it is not titled under "adult!" When you said: "neither is the other girls?" To whom are you refering? All I said was that she (nikki) needed to articulate her words, (Hence-I couldn't understand her) articulate isn't a bad word! I am in "no-way" being mean as you may percieve! As I said before and as you said before in your comment on 3-14 "constructive!" and it was meant for the other case: " I am just not that into her!" not for this case! If you think I was being rude than I can not help that, but you can not tell me what I think or what I feel? Your perceptions are your own! I am telling you inwhich text it is coming from, and that is of "honesty and caring!!!!" To you, it may not be a big deal to say or type (DB) but to me it is a moral issue and I stand on the fact that I believe a young lady should not use that name or word. Say that name or word in a professional setting! See how big that goes over! I wondered why it was blurred out when you typed it in? I am guilty of calling her a young lady, You called me rude and uptight! who is being critical now? but thats ok because I can choose to just disagree and then let it go. , it is just a difference of opinion! I know in my heart what I meant and my conscience is clear. By the way, correct me if I am wrong and I am just guessing at this but do you know her (nikki) in someway? or you are related to her? It is ok you don't have to answer! Although, I love a good debate, I am done explaining myself, and I "DO" wish you "all" the best in life!

ok, so now you are making no sense what so ever. the comment you are refering to is not under this case and neither is the other girls, soooo, i had no idea what you were talking about. and yes critizing someone for the way they talk is not an opinion, it's just mean. now you are rambling on about something..... who knows what......half of it doesn't make any sense anyway. honest? probably. caring....lmao!! if you were caring, you would have stated that you couldn't understand her, instead of telling her she needed to articulate. there is constructive critisism, and then there's just coming across rude. by the way, [BLEEP] bag is not a dirty word unless it's used as a name, so spelling out the word is not even a big deal. sounds like you may be a little uptight. you have a nice day :p

It really depends on how you define "date". If you go out to dinner or out in a group and then go home or if it leads to something more "committed". Most people get too cozy too soon and that is where the problem is. You should become friends first and see if it leads to something more lasting.

hey adult, The fact that the comment under this one is from another case was my mistake, but I have the right to comment, that is what this site is about! I didn't critcize her as you say, thats your perspective of it! It was constructive, and again I said nothing bad!!! not like how "she" blurred out "Dou--e bag" on the other case. I don't even like to type the word out!!!!!!! and I don't believe that is "nice" coming from a young lady either! If I were mean, I wouldn't care enough to comment! so your perception is off. Also, I don't think it is relevant or necessary to say which comment I made on this case, but I can tell you it's not about nikki. Thats okay because I know we are all entiled to our opinions, not that I am mean because someone else has an opinion???? What is that about?????? Sorry I am not about that! I just don't need to call someone a name or even curse to get my point across. My motives are honest and caring.

Its a very difficult situation for sure. I guess you two would definitely have to make sure its mutual that you like eachother. Start off going on group dates and see if you still appeal to them in an "out of work" expirence. Once you do one on one dates I would still keep it casual (go out to lunch together). If you two decide to proceed I would definitely talk about what would happen if it didnt work out. Make sure both of you are capeable of not holding grudges and being able to work with eachother in the future if things don't work out. Hope this helps!

If your comment is about another case, then why is it under this one? Pretty confusing. Articulate also means "capable of speech". I heard every word just fine and she actually made a point. You're right, you didn't say anything bad, you just criticized her. As far as the lesson on name calling, thank you very much, but I learned all that back in grade school. My point was that in THIS video, there wasn't any name calling, so your comment made absolutley no sense. It appeared that you were just being mean to someone for having an opinion. Your opinion is here? I noticed you didn't say which one.

So I have done it several times and it never works out well. I have some friends it does...but you better lay down the ground rules first

hey adult, that comment about nikki was meant for case#4349H8NNV she called the guy a do--he bag!! I do not agree with what he said but I wouldn't call him names! Calling someone names doesn't get your point across. After that, I couldn't understand her, articulate means:(clearly enunciated) the word has nothing to do with the name calling! I said nothing bad about her in either comment! My opinion of the topic is here but it is not titled "adult!" but anyway you have a great day!

Where was the name calling? She called her "lady", didn't hear anything else. The only inarticulate thing she said was "screwed", and that's how kids talk these days, at least she had an opinion about the topic, she is more ADULT than you.

There is never a good time to date a coworker. If it doesn't work out, then what? You are left in an uncomfortable position. If it's meant to be, wait until you no longer work together, it will still happen. If you are really attracted to someone, look for another job first. Best you can do, keep everything professional.

After having been through a number of office romances many years ago, I realize two things: 1.)they're going to happen; and, 2.)they're not worth the trouble you can get into, if things go wrong! The second you think nothing will go wrong, that's when the bottom falls out! Then, you can find yourself in a situation I was in, a long time ago, when half the women in the office wouldn't talk to me for almost 6 months! Keep friendships, for sure, just don't get romantic!

I don't see it being a problem as long as you're doing you're job. Not everyone works in an office. It isn't fair to tell people who they should or shouldn't date. That's totally up to the two people.

nikki, you need to learn to articulate your words and stop the name calling!

That last comment is accurate. I was there and did that, Staying professional and not allowing the relationship to get in the way of your work is the only way this works! Bravo!

I grew up with the rule "don't get your honey where you get your money". But these days its been shown that the workplace really is a great venue to get to know and meet others. The problem is not all people are capable of staying professional and sometimes the personal drama crosses the line. Know what kind of person you are before getting involved.

no, i seen this happen many times before and some of them arent there anymore!

Dating someone you work with is ALWAYS risky...if you have to work side by side with this person every day, it is probably not a good idea - ask yourself this: If I were dating this fellow and he cheated on me or got drunk and became abusive, or any one of the really "serious" reasons you break with someone; would I really want to then have to see and interact with this persona on such a close basis after tha?

NO

I dated someone I worked with and ended up getting married to him. I think its all in the experience you have and if you both can be civil if you do break up.

GO FOR IT!! He or (she) might be your knight in shinning !

If you decide to date someone that you work with, you need to be emotionally strong, be prepared to keep you mouth shut at all times about the relationship especially if everyone knows about you two! and "Concentrate on your work only!!!!!" also, there is always the emotional aspect of it when the boss or bosses need to discipline you or your partner, "this is the same for family members on the same job!" y-Your best bet is to stay out of it and let your partner and your boss work it out! That is how it worked for me so long I was in the relationship. In short mind your business!

Never look for your honey where you make your dough. I think it is a stupid question to begin with. Have some common sense people!

no-no-no-no-no! Ive don it I got burnt.