Just tell him "Of course dear, you don't have to pay for my pills, not when babies, new women, or hookers are so cheap. If not he can always use self-help.

you dont need a condom to bang a dog... dumbass

Wow, this argument is insane. Wanting your guy to pay for you bcp is ridiculous. BC doesn't just help prevent pregnancy, they also aid women in so many other areas such as, less acne, lessened cramping pains, and even fewer mood changes around the menstrual cycle. The female would be benefiting so much more if she made the man pay for her pills. Not to mention that she never paid for his condoms. The condoms actually make him unconfortable whereas the pills are aiding in her comfort. FAIR...I THINK NOT!! Plus, I'm sure it benefits you for him not to wear a condom. Most girls don't enjoy it just as much as the guy doesn't. You are benefiting so much more by being on the pills so just suck it up and pay for it yourself just like the rest of America's women are doing!!

Well of course!! If he is getting to have sex with you he should wine and dine you and everything. And I am surprised that this is even a problem- considering you both have been balancing and re-equalizing everything already... like for example he puts up with your voice and you put up with the fact that he is an old man. If you don't speak that much when having sex then I would say the scales are already not fair- you are gorgeous and he is a much older man. I hope he has a big penis or goes down on you a lot! He better be worth your time babe.

My answer to the debate is they should break up, they obviously have a lot of distaste for each other and do not value each others opinions. Who cares about their fight, break up-problem solved!

Preventing childbirth is a responsibility that a couple should share equally, because a child would indeed affect both of your lives. But if you never bought condoms you should at least pay for a few months yourself and then tell him to fanny up the dough.

I assume you have been paying half the cost of his condoms. right?

you go girl! tell him its bcp or no sex at all!! lmao

If this guy is so selfish to make YOU pay for birth control...so HE can have more pleasure, then you need to rethink your relationship.

I Think ,its a fair deal in a relationship ,for both partners to supplies means for birthcontrol , if he dont want to use condoms so be it , but if he agrees she needs the pill ,then he should fork out half the money for it...

You're too hot a babe to be with a looser who won't pony up $15 a month to have sex with you. WOW! he must really value the relationship!! DUMP this looser and find someone else who thinks you're worth $15 a month - it shouldn't be too hard for you.

You decided to go on the pill so your boyfriend didnt have to use condums. Did you pay for half of the condums? maybe you two should not be togather if this is the petty stuff you guys fight about there are bigger prolbems in the world then him paying for you not getting preagnet that is your resposabilty. You going to make the next guy pay for hem in order for you to have sex.

am I the only one that doesn't dislike condoms?? I think so...The boyfriend never had any problems paying for the condoms until he decided that he had enough of using condoms. The girlfriend never had problems with condoms until the boyfriend said he had problems with it. So if he wants her to take the pill he should pay for it. Did the boyfriend ever stop to think that the birth control has negative side effects as well as some positive while taking the pill?? The only side effect of condoms are alergic reactions to laytex. Also I don't know about where you live but here in Toronto Canada there are many places a person can go to receive free condoms and or lube and all these places are government funded.

First I give you credit for using BC, so many young couples today don't think about it until it is to late. I am sure your boyfriend would find it slightly more pleasurable by not using a condom, but a condom offers prevention from STD's which none of the available BC for woman will do. Another consideration is the dangers to your health that go along with taking the pill, so please do your research before jumping into any type of BC (Pill, patch ect.) As far as I know there aren't any health risk to using a condom. Condoms have been known to break, so a little extra protection wouldn't hurt. So personally if I were in your shoes, I would find the best suited BC with the least health risk for yourself, but I would still demand my boyfriend wore a condom. Then I would split the cost of both 50/50... Good Luck sjones, you got my vote!

I agree with her that the cost of being on the pill can get expensive. It sounds like the two them have been in a relationship for sometime and should split the cost of the birth control. I doubt he spent 30 bucks a month on condoms since you can get them for free at any family planning facility... They are coming out with a birth control pill for men maybe you can both get on it and pay for your own. My advise for her is to dump the guy he whines like a girl!

you make him pay

honey if i were you i'd pay for my own pills and have him wrap it too. i certainly wouldn't want you to have a baby with this guy. he sounds so selfish i wouldn't think he'd be good in bed anyway. find a new guy he's a loser.

You go Girl! Stand your ground. But think about this, if he's to cheap to pay $15, think where you would be if you had his baby!!!!!!

heck, i'll pay for the pills your hot as hell. think safety first and honestly do you want a kid with this guy, tell him to take a hike. and be safe and get the pills and there is better out there for you. where do you live i'll get them for you.

Ill pay for her birth control if she lets me cream her.

Haven't eitherof you heard that the Pill does not protect you from STDs, you bozos

If he wants you to do the birth control thing. He should pay for it all. If it cost , and painful to wear protection. Just tell him it's painful to pay for the pill and tell him he don't need sex. Tough love.

I agree with you, if there is a cost to contraceptive, and you think it should be shared, then it makes sense. Be careful of the slope your walking down, as in the future he has ammunition to say: If we BOTH enjoy something, we each pay half: Vacations, meals, movies, etc .. you get the point. Women want "equal" rights, but it seems ONLY when it suits them. When it comes to other areas, they want the guy to MAN UP so to speak, but you can't have it both ways. Either be consistent with your actions/thoughts or admit it is hypocritic or narcisistic to want "everything" your way and not be objective and consistent with your arguements. This is a "very" small issue to have if your talking "long term" relationships, but a great conversation starter to get you to understand how each will react with future decisions. People RARELY change for the "better" ... after a relationship is elevated to a marriage. Discuss it amongst yourselves and whatever decision you come to, realize that you've made that decision and stand by it. GOOD LUCK!!

just get it on

He is a cheap bastard,find someone who will respect you and your body instead of this jerk.

Tell him to get over it and "wear" a condom!!!!

Condems may be uncool with him but think about std's and other issues associated with the pill. I made the mistake of trusting boyfriend and I got a lifelong gift of herpes. Tell him to get over it and where a condom!!!!!

Because he won't use a condom. he should pay. But why have sex with him when he won't wear a condom. He is a selfish person. Examine your relatioship, do you want this for your future??

Drop this guy, fast.

I think you should cut him off for awhile, Men are always wanting to have fun but dont want the responsibility. It was his decision to stop using condoms so he either pays up or give up.

I think the boyfriend should pay for birth control. As long as he's getting it, he shouldn't complain. If you get tired of him, look me up.

FORGET PAYING HALF. HE WAS WANTS THE PLEASURE OF NOT HAVING TO USE A CONDOM, ITS HIS IDEA AND HE NEEDS TO PAY THE WHOLE AMOUNT, HE IS THE ONE WHO BENEFITS THE MOST FROM IT. ITS OUTRAGOUS TO THINK HE WOULD BE SO PETTY ABOUT IT, I WOULD CUT HIM OFF UNTIL HE PAID FOR IT.

It's your body and only you can decide what to do with your body and your life. So just cut the crap and pay for your own BC. Think of it not as a financial thing but as a wise decision about what is best for me.

Why are you with this guy? Wow what a loser. I think you should keep the nails lose the guy. The pills are not safe make the loser use a comdom lose him please.

I think you should be using both birth control and condoms. You can never have to much protection.Unless your married do not trust that your partner will do the right thing.personally I think you should get a vasectomy,see if she wants to pay for half of that.

Seriously, what a cheapskate! He is upset over $15? That ought to tell you something. The price of children are a lot more than that! I would dump his sorry bum!!!!

tell him to start buying and wearing condoms again.

The real question is: why are you still dating him? You can do better than this self-centered cheapskate.

perhaps this deadbeat who won't split the bill will end up fertilizing a split egg...that'd serve him right...

I can understand both points of view but since HE decided that HE didn't want to use condoms anymore then HE shouldn't have a problem paying for half of the bill. If SHE wanted to stop using condoms then I could see him not wanting to go on half the expenses of birth control.

I think this is really sad. You should both be grateful someone wants to sleep with you. Legally speaking, if she gets pregnant, he can be compelled by the courts to pay child support for 18 years, whether or not he wants a child. So dude, 15 bucks a month is cheap insurance compared to a couple hundred in child support for 18 years. Grow up and pitch in on the birth control, or get a vasectomy. Put up or shut up and be grateful any girl wants to sleep with a slob such as yourself.

Don't give him any... he'll pay!

Honey, he is just not that in to you. Be grateful that he showed his true self early in this relationship. He is a selfish pig. Dump him. Don't waste your pretty on him any longer. The right guy for you is still out there waiting.

Honey, learn this now... guys will NEVER pony up for any form of BC that is not wrapped around himself. Most Rx insurances cover BC minus a co-payment, so put that amount in YOUR budget. Aside from pregnancy, what about STDs? He should be wearing something unless you'd rather have a STD. YOU need to take care of your own health - that includes prescriptions that you may need.

good grief! this couple is not even mature enough to be having sex in the first place. i hope they don't get to the point that they are not going to use any contraception and risk bringing a child in the world simply because they are [bleep]ing to each other about who should pay. the argument gets further corroded by the suggestion that she should pay half for dinner and stop getting her nails done. she is the one who will experience the physical and emotional changes that go along with being pregnant and most of the responsibility for caring for a child. this relationship does not seem to be strong enough to survive a major issue if they can not agree on birth control. do yourself a favor, girl, and just buy what you need yourself. my goodnes, with all the fussing going on, how on earth will you enjoy having sex in the first place. grow up, the both of you. there are real problems in the world.

Must suck going your whole life thinking that it sex is a chore. Ladies it doesn't have to be this way.

no money for the pills? then find honey else way.

i voted for you. I'm a guy and if my girl and i were at that point in our relationship i would gladly pay half.

apparently, i pressed the enter key before i had the chance to finish my comment. again, he doesn't wanna pay for the pills, he doesn't wanna use condoms because their too tight, they don't feel good, and their TOO EXPENSIVE! YOU GOTTA BE KIDDING! what do you think bringing an innocent life into the world is gonna be? i'd say that is gonna be MORE EXPENSIVE than just buying a box of condoms every few days. he's gonna be tied to that child and paying for it until the child is at least 18 years of age, so i say, PAY FOR HALF HER PILLS. that is a fair compromise! WHAT IS WRONG WITH U, JERK!

he says he doesn't wanna pay for half her pills. he says he doesn't wanna do it, and that he doesn't have to do it. their too tight, they don't feel good, plus their TOO EXPENSEIVE!

Quit arguing over the 30 dollars. Go ahead and tell him you'll pay for them and DON"T. Simply get pregnant........only if he has a good job. You'll do just fine without him but at least you'll have a beautiful baby he has to pay for.

Oh my god, it's thirty freaking dollars. Get over yourself.

He asked for a different form of birth control and you suggested the pill. If you dont like the costs of that form then try the sponge or a diaphram or an iud. Stop blaming your man for the costs and find something you can afford.

This is absurd, if you really loved him you wouldnt stress over 30 dollars. If it was 300 I would understand, but your just being cheap.

Why is everyone talking about the health risks of the pill? That is not the issue, she has already taken that into consideration and decided to assume those risks, the same way that people assume the risks that come with driving, taking cold medicines, or being employed at any work site. The issue at hand is who is going to pay the bill. Also the costs of going without any form of birth control are not a factor either, that idea is unacceptable to both parties. They are both responcible enough to stress the importance of birth control. Who should pay is the only concern. Please stop taking this argument off track.

He needs to stop being cheap and pay the whole thing. She has to be the responsible one and remember to take it. Also she is willing to put these chemicals into her body, which is a risk to her health. If he doesnt want to have to wear rubbers, than atleast man up and pay for her pills.

I was wrong earlier, after a lot of thought I realized that women also enjoy sex and its both partners responsibility to be safe. I still think condoms cant possibly hurt or they wouldnt be on the market. And about sacrifices, they need to be made on both sides. Since he sacrificed his time and money repeatedly over the last couple of years to ensure a safe and responsible love life, it should be her turn now. This male chovanist ideal that the woman is frail and incapable of protecting herself has permiated our culture and caused women to feel entitled to a much smaller share of the responsibilities of the relationship. This is her body and she will also recieve greater pleasure from the removal of the condom so she should step up and assume the cost for appropriate birth control. If it was as easy for the man to just take a pill to temperarily stop his fertility we wouldn't even be talking about it. It would be assumed that it was 100 percent his cost, because it is his perscription and his body. Women are not week or frail or undeserving of equality. Unfortunately we can not pick which equalities we want, its all or nothing. So pay for your pill or admit you dont deserve to work or vote or read or write.

Should he pay you or give the money directly to your pimp?

You must think that you have a magical vagina. This relationship is heading for a split. Anyone else see that???

I think you're both right it should be split down the middle if your in it for the long haul and care about each other you would both respect the others wishes and feelings if this is such a problem maybe you should get pregnant then ill bet he would help pay for the pill haha

If my boyfriend didn't think i was worth $15 a month regardless of what i spent it on then that would be a red flag.The little things, shows the bigger things to come later.If your boyfriend wants you to help pay for condoms then by all means do. This is such a childish thing.either way you both are only spending a few dollars on each other, share and get on with life!!!!

When I first saw this I thought "Of COURSE he should pay half!" Then, when he mentioned that she never paid for condoms (and is that really true?) I thought he may have a point. But then I saw that someone pointed out that she has to go to the doc..GET THE EXAM, go to the pharm...risk side effects (including increased risk of yeast infections) and YES, he should pay half!!! MUCH cheaper than a baby at any rate!

while i agree with her, she didnt want to shatre the cost of condoms and lube, so let her pay for her pills the way he has to pay for his condoms and lube

If he doesn't want to pay, cut him off!

i agree with the previous comments - if he is not willing to pay at least 1/2 for a mutual benefit, its only going to get worse. i know, i'd hate to hear this but i've lived it. my ex wanted me to go out and buy HIS condoms, WHUT...so not only do u have to go to the doctors ($$$), and go to the pharmacy for the prescription ($$$$) but remember to take that damn pill every day at the same time, endure weight gain and who knows what else so he won't have to worry about the condom????? that is so selfish. i'm make him take a man pill or shot or something, or ....i don't know, he's a waste of your time. my advice to him: pay at least 1/2, if your man enough pay for all of it and still take ur girl out to dinner. if she's not that special to you then you probably should take you shouldn't be sleeping with her...

Simply - He is not worthy of you. WHAT A CHEAPSKATE... I assure you, it will only get worse - not better, from now on. If he complains about $15., that is a definite sign to drop him now... but, are you wise enough to listen?

You need to lose this guy. I would hate to see what type of future you would have with him. Good Luck.

For starters, it's your responsibility to pay for the pill. Second, I only chose to date men that are free with their money so what's theirs is mine......yes, even when dating, you don't have to be married. If you're squabbling over $30 Lord help you both. This relationship isn't going to be permanent.

Wow, I can't believe you're still seeing him after he said something like that. First of all, you can easily spend more than $30 a month on condoms (if I was with you, certainly!). 2nd of all, considering how much better it feels with no condom I'd say $15 per month is a HUGE bargain!!! 3rd of all, if he is so broke he can't spare $15 a month on something, is he really a good catch??? I wonder how much he spent on that stupid football he's holding in his video. Whatever you guys decide, make sure that it works! The thought of an ignorant, broke, uncaring person like this creating offspring just creeps me out!

If you weren't paying for condoms previously, it seems to me he shouldn't have to pay for half your birth control.

Dump him!! He's selfish.

Simple condom dude, you want the sex, you pay. You not want the sex, you don't pay. Girlie, dump the dope, there are real men out there for you. Better yet, no sex until marraige. Hey, there's an idea for you!

well there's always the old pull out method

Girlfriend, you NEED to get a clue! If you play, you pay. All you have to do is SAY NO! Since when is having sex mandatory in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. In jumping into sex before marriage, you are just setting yourself up for heartache, deep emotional wounds, and a topic for every ex-boyfriend's conversation with his friends. Is that REALLY what you want? SAVE IT FOR MARRIAGE!

Hey, i am a real man i will pay all of it. (lets hook up)

Since Mr. Wrong does not want to wear a condom I bet he didn't in his past relationships either. I would be worried that he would have some STDs. You should try to protect yourself and have him get checked. Your health is more important then his wants.

Thirty dollars a month is a small price to pay for assurance of not getting pregnant by this jerk. As it should be both of your responsibility, ultimately its your body, would be a life changing experience for you, if you stay with this guy, buy the pill.

Your telling me she never even bought one condom. I just dont believe that, every girl has a few hidden away for emergencies. If she never did then that was totally messed up and I can see why he wants her to pay for the pill. After all the pill is the next step in any healthy trusting relationship.

He should pay for the pill only if she pays back half the money for all the condom purchases. The costs for you not getting pregnant should be your own, after all the consaquences are ultimately your own.

The pill is benefiting both parties, so both of you should pay half. The alternative is using condoms, and if he does that, the expense should be 50/50 as well.

You want to play you must pay.

Whats up with that. The man should pay for everything when he takes out a lady. Flowers, dinner, even the after dinner activities. This is his responsibility or there is just no nookie. He should always pull out the chair, be the one to work full time and provide while we stay home and take care of the house and children. You should be ashamed of yourself for not paying for the birth control! She should not have any responsibilities to afford anything, since she should never be working. She should also never have to speak unless spoken too, and should never have the right to vote, or run a buisness, or learn to read, or do any enlightened thing on this planet because we are weak and inferior to the capable men. If this is the argument that we like than we should be consistant! In for a penny than in for a pound.

Wow, this isn't about Him being cheap. This is about a girl who cant pay 30 dollars to make her man happy. She asks him for 15 dollars a month for half of a bill and He is the one who is cheap? Thats absurd. Yeah condoms cost much more than 15 a month and he has always paid without complaint. Now that sufficient trust has built up in the relationship that birth control is all thats needed, you cant pay for the pill? You can afford 30 dollars a month without demanding it from your man. You are the one who is cheap and he should be wary about getting involved with someone like you.

I agree with you. He should pay for all of the birth control and all of the dinner. That's what real men do; And they don't argue about it! Who want's a selfish, cheap man?

I say kill two birds with one stone.....oral sex. That way you won't get pregnant, and he won't have to hear that shrill, whiney voice of yours.

IF its HIS idea that she get the pill then HE should be willing to put up half....I don't think half is completely unreasonable she's not even asking for the whole amount! Plus a box of condoms can run $10-$15 dollars and if you are using more than one box a month he's already saving money. What a pig, he wants the benefits but not the responsibility. If you're arguing over $15 for birth control now maybe you should reconsider where this is going....you may have bigger issues to deal with...

Pay for the pill and loose the boyfriend. He sounds like a selfish jerk!

My god your cheap. Do you charge him everytime you cook him dinner? Divide down the price of a gallon of milk to the 3 tablespoons necessary to make his dinner serving? What are you, Jewish?

Honey he needs to keep bagging it!

Pay for the pill and go find another guy.

Cant get pregnant from anal. Or a blow job. But I only mention it cause you are coming off like a hooker.

How about a handjob, how much do you charge for a month of those? Ever think about putting an ad on craigslist?

Wow, your arogent. You turned yourself into a hooker for fifteen dollars. And all the time prior he always paid for the contraception, but now you cant take a turn?

Pay him back for half of all the condoms before you ask him for money for the pill. Its your body, you need to protect it from pregnancy. My mother always told me that it takes two to make that mistake but it is generally only one that has to pay for it if it was a mistake.

can we say cheap prositute? i knew you could. if you want to charge him then pay him retro actively for half of all the condoms you have used with him. since that would/should be far more than 15 a month he should have quite a long time of free relations before your prostituting ways force him to pay you for what should be free. by the way, a baby is a hell of a lot more expensive so stop your complaints. oh, and i have 50 cents, incase your free for the night you cheap hooker. really, holding the [BLEEP] hostage for the price of a newspaper and then bragging about it. hooker.

I know that there are "female" condoms. At lease, they were available in the market place, during the early 1990's. Perhaps, you and your should stop having sex.

I was originally going to agree with you, but then I realized what a whiny voice you have.

no condoms... I would tell you pay half of the pills or you dont get to hit it if you want it but neither of you are ready for kids yet then you should pay for half of the birht control atleast she is being responsible and using protection and be happy she isn't asking you to pay for all of it. keep on him to pay half cause with a kid half is a whole lot more

Ditch this dude! Relationships are about sharing fun and life. He doesn't seem interested in the sharing part.

He is right for years he has used condoms and never asked you to pay so why now should he pay for the birth control you choose ?

you should pay him for being your boyfriend.. How can he stand to listen to you talk... you sound like janice from friends... shut up. Pay for you own pills stupid.

Pay for your own pills. It's your body and your responsibility to prevent an unwanted pregnancy. It's not like they are 400/mo. Don't be so petty.

YOu are right! But what I would do is if he didn`t want to use condoms and wouldn`t pay for half of the expenss for the pill then I wouldn`t have sex with him! Take charge of your own sex life! But he needs to pay- sex takes two ppl! Tell him that!

If you two are in a committed relationship it is both of your responsiblity to take charge of your sex life. Sex takes two equal partners. The boyfiend is completely being selfish is this matter. He is the one that no longer wants to use condoms, but does not suggest another alternative that they can both agree on. If I was in that relationship, I would totally dump him because of his selfishness in this situation...the possibilities are endness on other issues in this relationship that could go sour.

If I had to listen to that voice and insane accent for more than 3 minutes I would run away as fast as possible. No need to worry about the pill

If you're going to have sex, you have to accept the responsibilities that come with that. What I can't believe is that people can't live without sleeping around. GET MARRIED OR STOP!

maybe this is a wake up call? If he wont contribute to birth controll what other issues will arise were he wont contribute his half later on?

Dump his butt like a rotten tomato. Apparently, he's not the one. You have come up with a resonable compromise, and a choice for him. Pay half the cost of the pills, or use a condom. You should still be on some form of birth control, unless you want to raise a baby by yourself, because if he isn't willing to split the cost of a pill, or wear a condom. He's NOT going to split the cost of a baby.

what about tha cost ov condoms before tha fact? anyways ur a fat [BLEEP] who needs to have a kid and get married. if not ur gonna be hitting up everyone ov ur boyfriends up or a couple ov bux so you can sit on ur azz and get fatter. >: )

Darlin' - you need to wise up. You guys are just dating, and he says he doesn't like to use condoms? I hope he's been tested for STDs. And it might not be a bad idea of you get tested yourself - right after you've dumped his cheap butt.

PS...if the money REALLY is the problem, there are alternatives to the pill that last longer for one price(i.e. Mirena IUC). Do the research before committing to one thing.

i think both sides are right so i didnt vote at all. But the truth of the matter is, is that you should be protecting yourself irregardless of his wants. You are playing with fire by using condoms alone. If your not planning on starting a family with this man now or in the near future it is ultimately your responsibility to protect YOUR body.Think of it like this would you rather pay the $360 a year ot would you want to pay the estimated average of $14,000 a year to raise a child? I like to cheaper option.

HMMM, Tell him to buy the right size condoms and they won't hurt! This is just an excuss to not have to use them anymore. Maybe you should be on the pill and pay for them and he should continue to buy the condoms and pay for them! That way your both out the 30 bucks a month! Besides I kinda agree with D-what if you break up? You will still need to be on the pill or worry about getting pregnant! Then whose going to pay for your pills?

Ok, This was actually hard for me to decide. I am a female so on one hand, I understand you feeling like maybe he should pay for half if he doesn't want to use condoms. However, I am sure that you never paid for condoms when he was buying them? Splitting the cost would be a great idea. Even so, what if you and he split up, and you had to go on the pill anyway? Would you ask every one you ever dated to pay the 1.00 for that nights pill? I would say probably not. The Bottom line is it's your body and ultimately your responsibility to protect it.

I don't know what pill you're taking, but it ain't causing your heat stroke. HEAT causes heat stroke. Anyone who's had heat stroke more than once is a complete idiot because their not taking care of them selves. Certain medications increases your skin's sensitivity of sunburn, not heat stroke.

One more thing. $30 a month for the pill is far cheaper than a child. Quit whining and be an adult. If you're fighting about these little issues, what's going to happen if you have a baby? Think about it.

Have you ever thought about not having sex until you're ready to have children? Gee, what a novel idea.

This is a tough one because persoally I feel if you were sexually active then you should have been on a better form of birth control to begin with than depending on condoms. Secondly, how much and how often does he spend money on you? Too many unanswered questions. Asking you to cook more and go without things to pay for the BC was kind of crude. I would have kicked him where it hurts for that one.

The very existence of this question proves you are not worth the sex or a relationship. Poor guy. He has hasted his time with you. *Hitler *Corporate Corruption *People who use the gender as grounds for favorable inequality. The things that should not be. One down. Two to go.

As if birth control was this issue. You would say "boyfriend should pay for [everything under the sun]" if you could get the majority vote. Have you ever paid for condoms?

Look bsmith if you want to play you have to pay......

You are so right girl. He should at least pay half. The bottom line though is you want to make sure you are good, so you have to do what you have to do even if he won't kick half in. Hugggssszzz

How often does he pay for dinner?... How often does she pay for dinner? He's probably contributing 90% of the cost of dating. One dinner can easilly exceed the cost of 1 month of her pills. So... if you are going to complain about him not paying half of the pills... you need to start paying half of EVERYTHING ELSE. And... every time he buys you a gift, you have to buy him one of equal or greater value. (that will include that diamond ring you are going to demand later.)

Does he get at least half of the pleasure? Than YES he should pay half! I think you are being more than fair. The cost of the pill is far less than raising a child. Besides, are there side effects listed on the condum package? I bet your pills list side effects. tell him you could just stop having sex!

I think you should totally split the cost. I mean men don't realize how brutal the pill can be either. It makes us women gain weight, it makes us hormonal, moody, emotional. And he says "condoms hurt" AW MUFFIN! Try taking a pill every day that causes blood clots, heart problems, and more. And paying full price for it. $360 a year is a lot of money for pills, especially if you are taking them for someone elses benefit. My best friend gained 10 pounds within her first month on the pill. The month after, she stopped taking them and lost 10 pounds. Another friend of mine took the pill but was so moody she couldn't even talk to people during her time of the month. She also stopped taking them. jeez, the pill even states that you shouldn't be out in direct sunlight when you are on it. I have had several heat strokes over the years from the pill.

This confuses me. So you're working on chance and hoping nothing happens but if it does then what? Are you going to divy up the costs of the baby? It's because you're not married that you're having this problem. If you were then who would be paying for this? But since you don't believe in being married, then he's right. It sounds like a cold-blooded business deal tho'. Personally, I really question a relationship where $15 is such an issue. (And I too wonder the need of footballs in the picture.) I get so tired of seeing the out come of these instant relationships with no loving long term commitments.

if you didn't pay for condom then your even move on

YALL BOTH ARE WRONG IF YOU ARE THINKING ABOUT HAVING SEX WITH A MAN WHO IS TO CHEAP TO GO PUT UP 15 DOLLARS WHAT DO YOU THINK IS GOING TO HAPPEN IF YOU HAVE IS BABBY

Women will often have condoms in their supply for guys and if he is making the decision to completely not use a condom (irresponsible) then it's only fair he should help pay for the pill as well since he's forcing her decision. so, by his logic, is she required to buy both the pills and condoms then? that's just silly.

Why should he have any respect for you if you have no respect for yourself and give yourself away for free? You have chosen to use yourself up and have nothing to offer a decent man to marry and have children. So what's your problem, $30.00 dollars? Choices have consequences.

i aint voted for no one..i dont kno how long yall been together BUT girl if u so concerned bout protection then u shoulda be on the pills when u started haven sex. It seems that regardless of the protection yall dont want a baby. So ya both need to do sumthn. Cause a baby gonna cost more than 30 dollars a month no mateer if its the pill or a condom..yall grown figure it out!!

What about STD's? Have they both been tested and KNOW that is not a possibility? Next, if that is already cleared, HE should definitely help with the pills since he SUDDENLY doesn't want to use the condom anymore; besides it's a chemical she is ingesting and it is not advised that one does that for over a certain number of years. My next opinion is that they should get married, since they plan to be monogamous and obviously live together. Hello!

Cut the SOB off if he can't kick in $15.00 What a cheap guy.. I mean really! Ask him if he would rather just not have sex till you are married.. Bet he ponys up the $15.00 then.

I think she should refrain from giving him any until he sees it her way lol.. You go girl.

I think she is right i think when your in a relationship that you should help each other out he should cook for her and she should cook for him he pays for condoms she should help with the price he should help her with the price with the pill and her nails its a give and take relationship

I agree and disagree with you. It's YOUR body and you are responsible for it, if you DON'T want a baby, then get the pill, and your responsible for the cost of the bill. Your body, your life. That being said, this guy is such a pig not wanting to wear a condom and just deciding years after you've already formed your birth control plan that he now wants to change it. I think he doesn't deserve you and he definately doesn't deserve to have sex with you. So, for being a pig he should pay half.

Well i think Sjones i right..If He wants the change then why shouldn't you have to help out..Why should she have to go with out because you don't want to use a condum.And i think she is being nice i mean she only asked you to pay half.It's not like she's asking you to foot the bill.Just look at it like this......A baby= 10000,00000 meeting a new girl you don't know+ dinner+movie+drinks=$100 and maybe an std) Half for birth control+$15 Getting to have sex with your woman the way you want to and be safe = PRICELESS get smart my guy

If he's been paying for the condems, I think it's fair that you pay for the pills. It's only the fair thing to do.

You should be happy she's concidering having sex with you. She could easily say no pay, no sex!

It's simple, either he pony up and pay his half, or you won't have sex with him. It is not worth the risk of getting pregnant. It's $15 dollars a month, that's nothing. He should have to pay half.

It's a dollar a day,it'll save a lot of aggrevation in the future,you never paid for half his condoms.

I can't stand seeing all these people saying get fixed OMG just because they don't want to get pregnant now doesn't mean they NEVER want too..

I have thought about this, and asked my boyfriend what he thought. he says mr smith - it is cheaper to pay for birth controll than for a baby for the next 18 years.--- so pony up and pay for the birth controll

The process lasting nine months (+ or -) of having your organs rearranged, experiencing pain, boating, food-cravings, and much more, is a painful price for the miracle of incubating a new being. Women are blessed as well as cursed with the ability/responsibility of nurturing babies. If the possibility existed for men to become pregnant, the world would be an entirely different place. Fair is fair, Buckeroo; fork it over - half price of birth control is not too much to contribute.

he's a tool...if he's scared you'll get pregnant then he should get himself fixed.If he doesn't want to share your costs then tell him to stick it in another hole...meaning none of yours either

If you guys love each other than you wouldnt fight over 15 dollars. you guys arent going to make it. plz dont have kids .... :)

1. YOU can get pregnant not him. 2. You BOTH can get STD's. Ergo: use the pill even if you have to pay for them if you want to continue to have sex with him. AND, insist that he use a condom anytime that he is not having sex with himself! Be smart, not cheap.

The guy's sperm is what makes her pregnant so he has to spend money to buy condoms. Bsmith has been using condoms and buying them and now that he feels he doesn't want to use condoms anymore and sjones has to go on birth control, he should have to pay because he is the one who decided the change. If he didn't suggest the pill he would still be paying for condoms.

are you going to buy your half of the condoms

Don't let him have his cake and eat it too. Cut him off completely!!!! Find someone who appreciates you, and it certainly is not this guy.

I agree with Friend or Foe, you never paid for half the condoms so now suck it up and pay for the pills....

here's a concept... get fixed! because obviously you just want to avoid pregnancy and as long as you're committed, no reason to worry about a std. or how about let's do it the true, correct and right way... GET MARRIED!!! i'm sick of people being "committed" but not being committed. either get married or stop having sex until you are and/or can afford to support a child!

If she has to take the medical risks associated with taking the pill...He should be paying for the entire cost.

If she did not pay for half of the price of the condoms then she is on her own with the pills.

First of all, I wouldn't be sleeping with my boyfriend anymore if he decided he didn't want to use bieth control anymore. All it takes is one other person in your sex lives to transfer the HIV virus. Second, because the condom and lubricant is not bodily invasive, I believe the girlfriend has the right to request that the boyfriend take more than the interest he is, which is virtually none (after seeing his video).

Ok, I could see if you paid for half of his condoms, it would only be fair that he should pay for half your birth control. However, it is selfish that you should require him to pay for half your pills. I think you're wrong and I'm a woman who pays for her own birth control, always have, always will.

I agreed with you in the beginning, but since you never paid for condoms, then why should he cover 1/2 the pill?? Condoms are terribly expensive too!!! I know....either abstain or have a baby already!

Hey, if you never paid for condoms then why make him pay for birth control...would you rather spend $30 a month on it then $3k a month on a kid...that's why we all have insurance...go pay for your own birth control..I do.

I think he should have to pay for half of your pills, but only half...since you are having sex with him also. You should both go equal on it, no one or the other. What I want to know though is it true that you never helped pay for half of the condoms. If he should pay for the birth control..you should also have to have payed for half of the condoms.

if he wants to play he needs to pay!better yet QUIT having sex! believe me honey there aint a male worth all the grief they can create.just ask your ob/gyn

What a moron this guy is..hey stupid your already paying for the condoms!!You should be greatful she dosen't charge you by the hour.

How many condoms have you purchased? None, I bet. But that's not my point. The point is he made the decision to strap up for his own personal reasons. Now those reasons may be moot to him. But in any case you elected to take birth control because you obviously don't want to get pregnant so you should pay for your own protection. What are you going to complain about next, that the police department didn't re-emburse you for purchasing a gun for extra personal protection. You decided to take the pills so you need to pay. Case closed.

You want him to pay for birth control. You pay your own, or better yet, quit being a ho. If he wants to have sex with you, tell him to put a ring on your finger or move on. Your best bet would be for him to move on.

Simple, just take $15 dollars worth of pills while he saves his money for the pregnancy tests and the sooner you think child support. Twins run in your family?

sjones, he is a looser. I don't even understand why you would be with him. If he isnt father or husband material, he probably isn't boyfriend or sex material either. Please don't get pregnant. It will be way more than $30 a month.

Did you guys share costs when he was using condoms or did he just buy them. If you paid/ helped pay for them then he should help pay for pills. An easy fix would be taking the $30 bucks and investing in a vibrator. Use that until he stops being cheap. (they're better in bed anyways)

IF HE DOSN'T WANT TO USE A CONDOM THAT IS HIS CHOICE, BUT THAT DONSNT' MEAN THAT U HAVE TO SLEEP WITH HIM. AT THE SAME TIME HE IS NOT RESPONSIBLE TO PAY FOR YOUR RX. CAUSE THAT IS YOUR CHOICE. DID YOU EVER BUY THE CONDOMS??

SJones should use the pill and pay for it. bssmith should use condoms and pay for them. the pill has health issues and the condom has inconvenience issues,so the're even.

Me and my ex-wife did 6 months condom 6months pill.That way she had half a year to lose all that extra weight.

I THINK YOU SHOULD JUST NOT PUT OUT TILL HE EITHER PAYS HALF, WHICH I THINK IF YOU HELD OUT LONG ENOUGH HE WOULD PAY FOR THE WHOLE PERSCIPTION LOL .. WHAT MEN WOULD RATHER HAVE SEX WITH OR WITH OUT A CONDOM LOL ..

He should pay for for half. He could pay for 18 years if he doesn't.

I think he should pay half. She had to pay for the doctor visit. She putting herself at risk for side effects of the pill. There's a big difference between the cost of bp pills and the cost of condoms.

You also for to mention the possible health issues also.

I really can't defend either one of these people...sjones, you have to admit he has a point if you really have never paid for condoms, then why should he pay for Birth Control? But, bsmith, you sound like a real a$$ hole for all of a sudden deciding you don't want to wear a condom. I really don't see how the heck you two are still together if you can't work through a $15 issue!!!

Take it from a S Jones as well, there are far better guys out there!!

HELP!! HELP!! I was just robbed of 35 secs. of my life...I must admit that I heard SJONES and was amazed at your idiotic reasoning. How can you expect to form a functional relationship while not only thinking about these ridiculous topics but even worse verbalizing them! Maybe ask him to go dutch in paying for a new window shown in your pic after you spare us & him by jumping out now!!

Ah!! This is an easy one! STOP ALL TOGETHER!! If you two are gonna fight about birth control, DO NOT HAVE SEX AGAIN with each other. This is a very pathetic.. As for a verdict, she should pay for her birth control because he paid for his birth control and she got the benefit of having the contraceptive without cost. Now, if she wants to keep going with this guy, pay or no play! The guy will retain benefit without cost just as she did prior.

save your cash. Don't have sex with him untill he pays. He will give in.

If you did not contribute to the cost of the condoms, he should not contribute to the cost of the pills. Ultimately it is up to you to decide if you want birth control because if you do not use it and you get pregnant, you have the baby. He might have to support it (if you are lucky he will be a real father) but you have to be everything. Remember pills are not always safe or 100%. Weigh all the risks before deciding but don't base it on just the cost. Insurance is now covering birth control, check with your insurance co and ask your doctor for free samples, they get tons.

Here is a little reality for you, he cannot get pregnent, you can! You should care about protecting yourself. You may not be with him forever, you just do not know. Finally, he made a good point, you never bought one condom. So, figure out how much he paid for all the condoms you insisted he used, pay him your half for them, and then maybe he will consider paying for half of your pills. Problem solved.

Hey girls don't pay, guys do. I can't believe this.

OK girlfriend. I noticed one key sentence in your video. "I'm gonna make him...". A relationship is about what you can make the other person do. If he doesn't want to wear a condom and you don't want to pay for the pill, don't. Then no one has any fun! You both sound like children. "If he won't do it, why should I?" Stale mate

Don't give him sex without protection that he helps financially with. Not worth it.

He's just thinking of himself..He wants it but doesn't want to pay half then you pay all and he doesn't get any......

Stop whining and stop sleeping with him!! Have control over your own body!! If you get pregnant, will he pay the hospital bill, support the child? Think about it!!

he should pay if he wants to get some of forget about it

Yes, You are right he should pay for half the cost however if I were you, I would still make him wear a condom. Any guy that dosen't think you are worth paying for half the birth control may not think you are worth being faithful to either. Better to be safe than sorry. My advice, find a guy that treats you better!!

I completely agree, pay half of the cost of the birth control, you both are getting pleasure out of it so you should pay half. Oh, and one more thing, from now on when you go out, make sure she pays her half of the bill. Women are completely ok with the men paying for everything, but the first time they have to pay for anything, you get, "well, shouldn't we split it", or "don't you feel bad making me pay for this". It's rediculous, a man's money is "ours" but the womans money is "her's". How often does that wallet come out a night ladies?? Do you have to buy a guy a drink to get their attention? We are already spending a ton of money on you. Or even better, I agree with the guy that said just bj's and the backdoor from now on and it won't be a problem.

If the boyfriend stated he didn't want to wear a condom anymore and that is the basis for taking the pill, then that's something HE is wanting to do. Thus he should pay half.

You should do like my wife did to me... Tell him a story about a man and his new wife... On their first night he tossed his pants to her and ordered her to put them on. The pants were way too big and she tells him so and he replies, Yea and remember who wears the pants in this family... After a few moments she takes her panties off and tosses it to her husband and asks him to put those on. He protests but she says that she had to do it, so he should too. When he tries he can't get them past his knees and tells her, "hun.. Its too small, I can't get into your panties." She smiles at him and said "Yea and that's the way it will be until you change your attitude." she then leaves him to sleep on the couch for his their first night....

You are one spoiled girl. Grow up!

Wouldn't it be easier just to get a new condom wearing boyfriend?

your boyfriend says condoms are too expensive well so are children and all it take is one time not to were a condom take it from me i gave into my boyfriend not wanting to were a condom and now we have a one year old.

Jon has it right there are many health issues to taking the pill and could be life threatening for her. "Condoms are tight, Ouch!" Maybe your alarm clock will go off and you'll wake-up in more than one way....What a moron.

he is a complete [BLEEP]!

i suggest that your boyfriend is a complete [BLEEP]. if my man said: i dont wanna use a condom . and at same time would not buy me the pill he wud be out of my door within a second get some respect for yourself. you are much prettier then him anyways good luck

i suggest that your boyfriend is a complete [BLEEP]. if my man said: i dont wanna use a condom . and at same time would not buy me the pill he wud be out of my door within a second get some respect for yourself. you are much prettier then him anyways good luck

NOT USE A CONDOM?!!!!WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND, ARE YOU KIDDING ME YOU CAN'T BE SERIOUS. THIS IS 2008. GET SERIOUS!!!! STAY SAFE!!!!!!

He should just pull out before the explosion

you are so right. And as Pauline said no tickee, no laundry! If you have been together for several years, as he says, then he should pay for half. However, if he wont then make sure you get them, as I wouldnt want a baby by this loser

He doesn't want to use condoms - that's his choice, so if he wants sex, he should at least contribute to the cost. Besides, there's no health risk in using condoms but there can be using the pill. Has she been checked to see that it's suitable for her? Has he been screened for HPV or any other GU diseases that he may have caught from a previous partner but not yet passed on because he's used a condom so far? Has he considered vasectomy? I bet the answer's no to all of these. Grow up mate - you want the fun on your terms, you cover your share of the cost! If your sex life is so good that the cost is significant, it's worth it!

I think if you guys have been together for this long it is hard for me to believe that you don't pool your bills and expenses. You have obviously made a commitment big enough to each other to that you have sex and decide to put yourselves out there on this website to talk about it. Why is it that you are not "pooling the expenses"?

You Guys are not married in the 1st place this is a boyfriend/girlfriend thing...You The Girlfriend should be responsible for paying for your medications...does not matter who's idea is it

Gilr, come to canada and here a few italians that would pay for the whole pill even 3 month before ull need them! dont spend ur time with someone who doesnt know anything about what sharing is and having a real retationship. u both having pleasure, u both should pay!

save your cash. don't have sex.

That's cool. Have him buy all the lube and condoms he wants and find a guy who'll pay for 100% of the pill. You're cute, fun and he's just a lump on the couch.

Fine..you pay for the pills. Then charge him twenty dollars a pop. No tickee, no laundry!

The guy is right, guys rule!!!! vote for him, guys unite!

Sally...I feel for you. My boyfriend wont pay for a thing!