Dude- its just back hair- it doesn't make you anymore of a man. And you even said it yourself- it is unsitely. You are an idiot!!! She is a beautiful woman and sounds like she does A LOT for you to turn you on- so BE A MAN- a REAL man- and GIVE BACK something to her- GET RID of your disgusting back hair- NO ONE 'digs it'. Oh and you are a pig and you are EXTREMELY lucky to have her.

Maybe you two should have a shaving party.You shave her she shaves you,you could get a little slip and slide action going.Seriously dude a little personal grooming never hurt anyone,it's only hair it will grow back(even thicker)

Please get rid of her. A relationship is so much more than looks. If she truly loves you she will love you the way you are.

If appearance is so important to the two of you, you are not right for each other. Neither of you are going to look the same 30 years from now. God forbid one of you have an accident that is disfiguring could either of you handle that, or would you drop each other like a hot potato. You are both shallow, and need to grow up before getting into a relationship.

Personally I don't care for the back hair myself, however, it's your body and you should be accepted for who you are and how you are. Any relationship that is based on appearances only is very shallow. If you are happy with it leave it, but if you shave it make sure you do it for the right reasons. BUT... What will she ask for next?

Dump her! who the heck is she to tell you to shave your back for her! If she doesn't like it, too bad. You deserve someone who loves you for who you are, not someone who wants you to change to suit their personal tastes in men!

You need to shave it, many females don't digg that hair on the back. it's not attracting!!!! and really not when having sex and rubbing on your back....her hands might get caught in a nap LOL

Dude I don't think you should shave. If your ok with it. Pluse how ya gonna shave it? Is she gonna shave it? Dose she want u to spend money to get it shaved? It's only gonna come back thicker. Keep the hAIR LOSE THE GIRL

I'm with you, if you don't want to shave it don't!! To many people get into relationships and want to change the other person. Be yourself. If she doesn't like you the way you are girls are a dime a dozen and the next one will!

Dude that's gross!!! But you're right. If she doesn't like hairy men than she shouldn't have started dating you at all. We all want to be loved for who we are, not for what others think they can mold us into. Move on! Find a fur-loving woman.

women naturally grow hair on their legs and underarms too but I'm sure if your girlfriend allowed that to happen you'd sound just as vain as she does. Maybe she should just ditch the razor and make up and see how long you'd last before you asked her to do something about it. I don't think its asking much of a partner if she is telling you straight out and honestly that she finds it unattractive. It won't be too long before she is so not attracted to you that she finds somebody else who she is attracted to.

ditch the witch and get yourself a hairy beast like yourself.

those who alter physical traits to please others have more issues than 10 years of therapy will resolve. Good for you for maintaining your self respect and confidence.

this is too easy...accept you as you are or take a hike. any woman who thinks she can change a guy is a controlling freak. today it's back hair, tomorrow it's everything else. run far, run fast...there's more fish in the sea.

if u love someone u should try things at least once, the way U talk about ur girl is disrespectfyl

"He should shave his back if he loves me" All of her arguements are geared toward why HE should Change for HER. And what is her sacrifice? She wears her hair down for him. She tries to make it sound that the only reason she shaves her body hair is for him. If she doesn't love him unconditionally for who he is, why should anyone believe that she would love him unconditionally after he shaves his back. What is the next thing about him that she doesn't like that she wants him to change just to prove his love to her? When does the "changing him into the perfect man" end? He should cut his losses NOW!

you're an ape... keep the fur and lose the [BLEEP]! women who are too much work need to be thought a lesson.

way to go bro... i get the same [BLEEP] from everyone else. i say let it grow. most chicks secretly enjoy it but with this stupid politically correct society, don't ask don't tell......

for centuries, women have always put makeup on and tried everything to look attractive for their men, but this is ridiculous. HE'S A MAN! if she cannot handle his back hairs, then that's HER problem! he is right. that is the way God made him, and if she truly cares about him, no matter what is said about him, if she's so embarrassed, then break up with him. that's what i have to say. in any relationship, u shouldn't look at the outward appearance of a person. u should go to what's in their heart FIRST AND FOREMOST! that's what truly counts, and if u love them and their nice and decent to u, a few backhairs shouldn't make a difference. if someone does make a rude comment,just tell them to either mind their own business, or laugh it off. show it doesn't bother u, and after a while it will quit. your man's feelings definetly should be taken into full consideration. he is what he is, and to me,this guy is not trying to change himself, and he's a decent guy who loves and respects her. u rarely find that in a relationship anymore today.

if you want results, just simply grow some hair in your armpits and see if she enjoys looking at your hair and wait until you get real sweaty and the deodorant fails. he wlll understand then. tell the caveman he's living in 2008. men can be sexy without looking like a ape. don't take him near a zoo, he may not come home.time to dump the zero. find yourself a sexy hero

I used to be grossed out by the body hair, until I fell in love with a guy who is quite furry. I love him...so I love his hair. People are too superficial...who cares what other people think of how he looks!! This is a fine looking man. Besides, who wants a man that has to spend more time primping than you do?

I think that if you like or even love this girl then you should at least shave your back once, and if you don't like it it can grow back. If you ask me it looks pretty disgusting. You freaking loser.

Ill, Ill, Ill!! Put that shirt back on!

You women still think that you can change a man, with your magical vaginas, once you have him roped in. Ever wonder why the divorce rate is so high? Stop settling for the wrong guys in the first place or accept them just the way they are!

I feel you homeboy, but all in all...it is who you are, try shaving it or waxing it once or twice to please her and see if you like it, if not grow it back and let YOU BE YOU!!

why not try trimming your back hair and then go from there. Yes everyone needs to be able to be themselves.Being at ease with one another in a relationship is important as well.

Shave your body its a turn off to see that fur and shave your head also (baldie).

I agree with Becca. The girl would shave and put on her make-up with or without a boyfriend. She does it because SHE chooses too, not because someone is making her. She should accept her boyfriend for the way he is. I at least felt that way until her boyfriend opened his mouth and made the comment about chicks loving the fur and bring the next one out - he sounds like an idiot. I am also culture about what "culture" he is speaking of???

Shave your back, you disqusting pig!!!

I hate that excuse that your a man so you have to look like a man. Look like a man but don't look like a caveman. Unibrows and hair backs aren't cute or natural looking. It's like a dirty homeless man.

Your girlfriends complaint shows her lack of maturity. Be yourself, for yourself.

Its not a disability, you dont fill that out on your health insurance form or get medicine for it from your doctor. Go to a day spa, get it waxed. Go to a doctor, have laser hair removal. Get your girlfriend to do it, you have options.

Dude she needs to chill out. I've got a carpet on my back too, but what am I supposed to do with it? Does she realize how logistically difficult it would be to shave one's own back? It's not like we asked to be born this way. We can't help it any more than someone born with some type of disability. Does she make fun of people with disabilities? I hope not.

I agree with you too. You shoudlnt have to compromise who you are for someone else. You should be yourself, but you can still be yourself without all the extra hair. Assuming you guys arent married, you should feel lucky knowing shes only asking you to shave/wax your back hair and not begging you to marry her, planning a wedding, etc. Shes embaressed at the beach, cmon dude, you can do something that small to make her happy. She keeps herself groomed, why cant you? I can only imagine what your pubic area looks like if your back is like that.

I know a lot of girls don't like back hair or any hair at all, but I love hairy men. I've never dated a guy with too much hair and that includes one that went to a Halloween party as an ape. Personally, I think you should find a girl that likes you the way you are. Physically, I think you're adorable. I don't know you, so you may be different personality-wise, but you're a cute guy with no alterations.

Dude If you cant do this for her you got the wrong girlfriend. Go get one who loves you for you.

Use the back hair to replace the head hair. I hear that butt hair works, too. Problem solved, everyone is happy!!

Are you kidding? She would shave her legs and do her makeup whether she were with him or not, that's no defense. She does it to look pretty, not because he insists on it. My man is about as hairy as they come, and I wouldn't dream of telling him to shave his back hair. I think it makes him seem kind of raw and masculine. She needs to get over herself.

Kudos to you. I have seen worst. We are talking Chia Pets.

Your girlfriend has a serious problem. If a man tried to shape me to his liking I would tell him that he should care about me for who I am rather than trying to change me. If she is going to have a fit because you will not shave your back, there will be more attempts to change you on the way. I don't necessarily "dig the fur" as you put it, but when I care for a man, I care about him as a person, rather than in portions of what I like and don't like.

"I want I want I want!" Doesn't matter what you want! You cannot demand someone to change their physical appearance because you don't like it. My verdict for Shaggy!

Hey Dude, if she wants it shaved, let her help you. You will not miss it and it could be a lot of fun. Seriously.

Janet, I disagree with you about this woman being shallow. We all have preferences in things and people, right? This is an indication into something bigger. Today, more than half of marriages end up in divorce. Why do people think that they can grow to love someone as appose to loving them from the minute they share a look. People need to stop fooling themselves and really take the time to get to know themselves first.

I like hair on a man and so do many othe omen, she seems very shallow , dump her and getsomeone that appreciates you

Your girl is very petty and trifling. If you are comfortable in your skin (with back hair) so be it. There are so many important issues today that to waste energy and time on To Shave or Not To Shave is a shame. Stay true to yourself.

Come on, mister, you do expect her to be different. She shaves her body, and you expect her to do that for you. Until you said that I was all for you, but that's nonsense.

Some people just don't like hair. I have never dated a hairy guy. I personally don't like hair. If you don't want to change the way you look break up there are people out there who like hairy men.

I massage hairy backs all day...its just hair, stop for a second and realize you don't always have to worry about what others think about you or him.....it's not always about you miss princess.

Love the hairy back... my hubby is just like you. There are women who like it. Dump her, she's too high maintenance anyway, look at all that make she needs to look good.

Lose her. She's petty. If you guys are arguing over something like this I can't imagine what you would be like married. I'd take you in a heartbeat, fur and all.

If you want to break up over back hair you have serious issues

Eww shave your back that is distugting.

Dude...this is a no brainer; WAKE UP. This girl is WAY over your head; if the only thing she's complaining about is the back hair, run, do not walk, to the nearest waxing salon. There's no way in HELL I'd date a guy with a back- full of disgusting gorilla hair. Gross! You need a re-education in which women are too hot for you guy. Wake up and count your blessings before it's too late.

That is just so unattractive! Why not change it if you can? It is not like she is asking you to do something about your balding head. The back hair is just gross! If you love her, and it appears she really loves you, then PLEASE do this for her! I love my husband, but I could never tolerate that! We would have to make love with his shirt on! NASTY! Sorry!

I agree with you. If you start doing this just because she wants you to, believe me when I say it will never end. You will be nagged to death for the rest of your life! StaND UP TO HER. lET HER MOVE ON IF SHE DON'T LIKE IT.

This woman is shallow shallow shallow. Move on mister! Hair is just hair! If she is focusing on such a basic body feature, and thinks it is "gross" she needs to GROW UP. Walk away. There are plenty of women who will love you for who you are, not what your back has on it!

if the women is turned off by you having and can't live with it then move on cause it's not going to last she sounds way to hung up on looks

It sounds like both of you have decided. There doesn't sound like enough love in this relationship to make this work. If this so repulses her, then she should let go. And he sounds amandent. He sounds like he is comfortable with himself and that's a good thing. Compromise is at the heart of every relationship but this isn't, "what movie do we want to see tonight." This is a major problem for her when intimacy is so important. Neither would be truely happy. And the girl is already using the, "if he loves me" card. That line should never used in a healthy relationship. We mess our relationships up with not loving each other for what we are. We show only our best feet when we're first presenting ourselves. Who of any age are so confident with themselves that they can present who they really are when first dating? ho hum. . . I wish them both well but this is a good thing they found out now. Part friends and move on. Best of luck.

You are not nasty, so don't be ashamed of yourself. What are you doing with her anyway?! I personally don't go for men with really hairy backs but I would not ask one to shave if he was a good man to me. She does not love you for who you are. She is more focused on appearance. If you shave your back, then it will be something else. Face it, she does not love you. Give her the pink slip.

Don't shave your body hair! It would feel awful and is totally unnecessary. Women should appreciate your manly hairy bod. Have you tried a good soapy daily shower. I think any loose hair would go down the drain. Then you might have a drain problem, but not floating around the room hair issues.

I manscape a little because I am hairy as well...But if you prefer not to manscape than do it my friend DUMP HER.

Being the furry type, my compromise in this situation is to allow the girlfriend to dye it. Preferably with a tiger stripes or silverback motif.

Looks aren't everything... She outta be with you because you're a great guy...Dump her, she's too emotional and arrognant

i dont get turned on by hairy backs. But I totally agree with you saying you shouldn't change your physical apperance. GOOD JOB! YOU ROCK MAN!

Girls shave their legs & pits to be more appealing. Why should it be right for a guy to refuse to do the same? Dude, if you're going to flat out refuse to do such a little thing for your g/f that apparently means a lot to her, then you might as well break up now. Would you be willing to stay with her if she stopped shaving her legs, armpits and other areas?

I've shaved my back hair ONCE and it killed! As it grew in it was really itchy and painful. From her video she is definitely not worth it. Dump her!!!

This girl is obviously very shallow & does not appreciate the real you. Stay true to yourself, you'll find a smart girl who likes you both inside & out. You are a good looking man just the way you are. :) As far as body hair goes on a man, I don't mind either way. When it comes down to it, it's the person inside you eventually come to know & the package they come in isn't nearly as important.

Im a 22 year old female, and i always thought it was so disgusting seeing a man with chest hair and back hair, but then I found my love and he's a hairy guy, he's also got a little bit of meat on his bones, and i've always been really funny about looks. He doesn't have much hair on his back, but he has enough on his chest to make a blanket, And I actually like it more now. I feel like i'm with a "man". Its more of a turn on to me now being with a guy whose bigger and hairy opposed to being with a guy whose just real boney and smooth. I got me a REAL MAN now! =]

Dude... you must be a Leykis listener. Be the man nature intended you to be!

Dump that ugly loser bi#$% - she ain't worth it, dude.

hey by the way dude if its bad you might want to fix it for the next lady..mis not good enuff for me will be gone soon and it might help uot around the pool

I've been shaving, clipping and waxing for 23 years. I love the the fresh feeling. Trust me women love smooth skin more than the gorilla look.

Dude, wax that back. It frightens children

body hair for men is very manly. i'm sure she wouldn't like it if she saw how many huge whitehead [BLEEP] pimples you will get all over your back from ingrown hairs after its been shaved. i vote to keep the hair.

Dude, stand your ground. If she does not like hairy guys...well she can always find a smooth femme boy to go out with.

Bet she doesn't complaint when the furrrr covers her on cold night.

As a gay older man, I think you are hot! Just stay the way you are. You are a nice looking man, look masculine, and the natural you should be accepted.

JUST SHAVE IT....BIG TURN OFF IM WITH HER

Forgot I agree totally with Diane. Dont do it, You will suffer for weeks on end

hey if you do not have a problem with it, then it's time for a nw girlfriend. Do you ask her to wear all that make-up? Most men don't like alot of make-up. Just stay true to yourself.

I agree with you don't do anything unless its for you. If you shave your back you will be very miserable, it will itch and possibly develop a skin rash. keep your hair and get rid of the girl friend. Diane in ga.

Keep the hair and ditch the whining girl. You had the hair when you met and it was good enough for her then! There are plenty of girls out there who don't mind or actually like a hairy guy.

big deal... man shower everyday do you hear us [bleep]ing?

Dude... You're a beast!

MAYBE A BACK TO HEAD COMB OVER IS IN ORDER!!